Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Superficial Manhood

Just a quick post about the distortion of manhood in America.  I have recently started a subscription to Men's Health magazine because I've hit a plateau in what I can do to get back in shape on my own.  With my paid subscription, I received the Big Black Book of Secrets: The Guy Guide to Male Wisdom
I have had this for about a week, and have only been able to make it as far as the table of contents.  I will lay out the sections of this guy's guide, then explain where I see the issue. 

1) Muscle up fast
2) Lose your gut
3) Dating and seduction
4) Power food for men
5) Supplements for men
6) Awesome Abs
7) Over-the-top performance
8) The sex position playbook
9) Look great, feel great
10) Fast health fixes
11) How to be a great dad

Did you catch it?  Issue number 1... actually, my ONLY issue is that Men's Health's idea of manhood doesn't include anything that deals with internal health.  I don't mean the foods you eat, but the mental and emotional health that men also need to work on.  The only section that you may think comes close is the being a dad section, but even that one is a series of quick how-to blurbs. 

Being a man is not something you do, it is something you are.  In an age where male and female roles are no longer separate, there are too few things that we do that we can say make us men.  However, there are plenty of things that we are, and can be that make us men. 

So here's the discussion question: What intangibles make up the men you admire most, and do you strive to become yourself?


  1. When I met my wife, I used to wear this ring that had Superman's 'S' shield on it. She asked me once, why I admired him. "He does good work," I'd reply.

    That is a good man, IMO. Someone who takes his gifts, super-heroic or otherwise, and puts them to the best possible use to make the world a little better than he found it.

  2. Superman is a great example. There are aspects of even our fictional characters that we can admire. Check out this post I did in November. http://manvdadhood.blogspot.com/2010/11/legacy-of-superman.html

    Thanks for your comment.

  3. Confidence and decisiveness. I strive to have more of both everyday. It has been a long journey for me but the older I get the more I have of each.

    Great point and post.

  4. Being a man means you do what comes from within. Most men feel a need from within to provide and protect there families. If you find yourself feeling this way, I will list what you may consider that makes you a man.

    A man will protect his family, even if they’re wrong.

    A man will provide for his family even if he’s not appreciated.

    A man will love his family even if he’s not loved back.

    A man does not need approval just to make a decision.

    A man will guide his family, even if he’s not recognized.

    A man does things because he’s a man and none of this can be taken from him, ever.

    Thanks for listening.

  5. Very true. Well I do like Men's Health, I usually read askmen.com for how to better improve personally wise. In the end the personality of a man truly makes him a better person.